1.         Dengar dengan teliti tanpa menyampuk.
            Pastikan apa yang telah diperkatakan dan apa yang tidak.
            Perhatikan juga bahasa tubuh yang mungkin ada.

2.        Beri pasangan anda ruang untuk perasaan dia secara tulus.
           Terimalah si dia seadanya.

3.        Wujudkan dan pertahankan sempadan dan had kamu dengan jelas dan tepat.

4.        Jika wujud konflik, hapuskan konflik itu dan bukannya serang pasangan anda.
            Berhati-hati dalam membuat keputusan dan penghakiman.

5.        Jangan letakkan pasangan anda di belakang dengan memberinya kata dua atau ugutan.
            Ia adalah seumpama mengundang satu ledakan.

6.        Bertanggungjawablah di atas apa yang anda lakukan dan jika mungkin tanggungjawab pasangan anda.
          Jangan saling salah-menyalahkan.

7.        Luahkan perasaan anda secara tanggungjawab dan matang.
           Jangan emosi merajai suasana.

8.        Kotakan janji anda.
          Jangan jatuhkan kredibiliti anda dengan memandang remeh janji anda.

9.        Kemaafan adalah satu senjata yang amat berharga samaada memafkan diri anda sendiri pasangan anda.
           Di sini juga wujudnya kekuatan dalam ikatan.

10.     Sumber terbaik untuk mewujudkan emosi yang tenang ialah dengan mewujudkan ikatan tanpa syarat.
           Semoga anda dirahmati apabila menerima atau memberi sesuatu.
 
 

Hadiah Terbaik

Kepada kawan - Kesetiaan
Kepada musuh - Kemaafan
Kepada ketua - khidmat
Kepada yang muda - contoh terbaik
Kepada yang tua - Hargai budi mereka dan kesetiaan.
Kepada pasangan - Cinta dan ketaatan
Kepada manusia - Kebebasan
 
 
 

The Top 10 Ways to Create Emotional Safety in Relationships We all want to have healthy relationships with those who are important in our lives. Often the level of emotional safety can be determined by the quality of our conversations. These statements are directed at couples but can also be used in parental relationships, friendships, and working relationships.

1. Listen without interrupting. Hear what is really being said and what is not being said. Watch for obvious body language.
2. Give your partner space to have his/her feelings and be authentic. Accept who he/she truly is.
Remember why your were drawn together in the first place.
3. Establish and maintain your own boundaries and limits very clearly.
4. When there is a conflict, attack the problem, not your partner. Be aware of judgments and critisisms.
5. Do not back your partner into a corner by giving ultimatums or by making threats. It will eventually backfire.
6. Be responsible for your own behaviors and hold your partner accountable for his/hers. Don't play the blame game.
7. Communicate your feelings in a thoughtful and responsible way. Do not use feelings to control.
8. Follow through with what you say you will do. Honor your agreements so that your partner does not feel rejected.
9. Remember there is power in forgiveness, both in forgiving yourself and in forgiving others. There is also strength in touch.
10.The most powerful resource in creating emotional safety is unconditional love. May you be blessed to both give it and receive it.

"Best Gifts" The best gifts to give:
To your friend, loyalty;
To your enemy, forgiveness;
To your boss, service; To a child, a good example;
To your parents, gratitude and devotion;
To your mate, love and faithfulness;
To all men and women, charity.